Your profile is your selling point and must deliver in a brief, but dynamic way, your best attributes and most compelling interests. Whether these interests are gardening, walking, cooking or a round of golf, don’t be reluctant to talk about them, as they are an important part of who you are and what makes you unique.
Crucial, of course, is adding a photograph. Without an image you’re not likely to attract much attention. People are always suspicious of profiles without images as they naturally suggest someone who is not fully committed to the process or is unhappy with the way they look. The real reason is much more likely to be because you are shy, of course, but potential connections will not have time to make this consideration, they will have moved on to the next profile with a photo.
Once you’re happy with your profile, you will feel more comfortable about contacting other members, as you will know you have sold yourself in a way that is true to you and therefore more likely to attract a compatible person.
Here are five recommended steps to creating your perfect profile:
1. Be True
Don’t over-sell yourself and always keep a little something back in case you want to make an impression further down the line. Something like….’I play the piano’ or ‘I’m in the process of writing a book’, will very likely add interest on a first date.
If possible, get a friend to take a photograph. Pictures you take yourself are unlikely to be the most flattering. A headshot, preferably whilst you’re smiling, would be perfect and if you can, a picture in an informal environment where you look comfortable.
If you find writing about yourself difficult, write about what your passions are: i.e. your children, your hobbies, or your work. This will help to convey something of who you are. Keep it positive and try to display confidence within your text. As the saying goes ‘confidence is everything’! If being funny is part of what makes you who you are, then say something amusing. If you’re a serious kind of guy or girl then try to express this in some way.
Avoid saying too much about your assets – or lack of them. This is the Internet after all and you don’t want to attract anyone for the wrong reasons.
4. Dreams & Aspirations
It’s not always a good idea to state in too much depth what you hope your next stage in life will be. Describe future plans only loosely, suggesting you’re open-minded about what lies ahead. For example, ‘a desire to travel’, or ‘learn a new language’. Keep things in the moment and focus mainly on describing where you’re at in your life right now.
5. Say Hello!
Don’t wait to be found. Once you’re happy with your own profile, visit the profile sections regularly and if there is someone who looks and sounds promising, give them a wink, or send a brief message showing your interest. If initial contact does not prove fruitful then try again. Someone, somewhere will be waiting for someone just like you.
Being honest and genuine when creating a dating profile makes a big difference to the outcome of any potential friendship. The more people you interact with online, the more you will gain confidence and the more enthusiastic you’ll become about the possibility of dating again.