When we fall in love and commit ourselves to a long-term relationship, we do not dwell on the possibility that it could ever come to an end. For a widowed man or woman, Valentine’s Day can be particularly challenging.
Category: Love After Bereavement
As a widow or widower, there may come a time when living without love and romance leaves you feeling as though life has become devoid of substance and meaning. Love is an essential part of life. Without it, you may be feeling a large part of you is unfulfilled and this is not something you should ignore.
While definitely a time of hope and anticipation, the prospect of dating post-widowhood can also be a scary moment in time. However, by even so much as considering reentry into the “World of Dating,” you are actually taking a huge step forward on your healing journey; a step that is both “cause for applause” and congratulations.
Immediately following the death of a partner nothing you do or feel will seem normal. Every step you take will be out of the ordinary and your sense of loss will be painful and alienating.
If you’re a widow or widower, the prospect of seeking a new relationship brings with it the possibility of upsetting the status quo. With this in mind you may need to tread carefully when you decide to tell your in-laws you’re thinking of dating again.
As a parent following the loss of a partner, you might one day find yourself in another relationship and facing the task of introducing someone new to your children. You may feel anxious about doing this and concerned that this news could make them feel insecure.
For some, getting back into a relationship after bereavement will take a great deal of forethought. The mere idea of actually going on a first date will be a huge step for you. Hopefully, a huge step taken with cautious enthusiasm!
If you’ve been happy with your partner, and their absence has left you in an empty, unremitting state of ‘love lost’, then perhaps you shouldn’t be reading this. However, if it’s been a while and you’re starting to miss having someone to share your life with, then maybe the time has come to think about meeting others who are also single.
The first thing to remember is you don’t have to cope alone. There are many resources out there, which can help you through this period and they are there to be used. Resource services have the information you need at their fingertips and can provide you with the contact details of organizations nearest to you.