Coming To Terms With Being A Widow
Learning To Live As A Single Woman
If your partner dies, this is not something you’re likely to come to terms with quickly. Learning to live as a widow will take courage and practice and in time you will be getting on with your life not as a widow but as a single woman.
Surprisingly, if you’re left with children and a demanding job it’s possible you’ll find your feet rather more quickly than if you’re home alone and not busy. Children, especially, are a huge driving force to move you on and your mind will be on their wellbeing much more than yours
Kick-Start Each Day With A Positive Outlook
This is not an excuse to ignore your needs, physically or mentally, but it does mean that each morning is kick-started with a ‘raison d’etre’ you cannot ignore.
The more your thoughts are occupied with the need to carry on for the sake of your children, job or day to day responsibilities, the better it can be for you. Having essential commitments you cannot ignore will occupy some of the space otherwise filled with thoughts of your late partner.
In time, you will hopefully have settled into a routine and feel you’re on top of things. Inevitably, some days will be more challenging than others, but by keeping busy, your recovery, such as it is, will surely come.
When The Time Is Right You May Want To Start Dating Again
At some point in the future, and this will be different for everyone, thoughts of meeting someone new, may be calling you. This is nothing to feel guilty about and when you think the time is right, explore the options available to you. You may now be comfortable talking to friends or family about your plans and this could be helpful.
There are numerous classes, sports clubs and meet-up groups you can investigate. Or, it could be that someone you know will have a single friend who could be an interesting proposition for you. Exploring the possibilities presented by online dating is another way of meeting others, also looking to find romance and friendship.
If and when you feel ready to date again, don’t leave it too long before you look for that certain someone.
If you feel unsure about whether you should be taking these steps, it might be because the idea of being with someone new has come too soon for you.
Dating should be fun and getting to know someone in the early stages can be exciting, and the outcome, a revelation!