With summer having drawn to a close and the prospect of winter on the horizon, it’s easy to find yourself hitting a low spot. However, in between summer and winter comes autumn; a time to enjoy the seasonal colour and a gradual transition into our boots and winter sweaters.
June 23rd is International Widows Day, a day which seeks to raise awareness of the plight of the estimated 258 million widows throughout the world, almost one in ten of whom live in extreme poverty and deprivation.
The length of time it takes for somebody to go through the grieving process is specific to each individual. Your beliefs and religious values will no doubt influence how you react to this situation, and to those around you.
As a widow or widower, there may come a time when living without love and romance leaves you feeling as though life has become devoid of substance and meaning. Love is an essential part of life. Without it, you may be feeling a large part of you is unfulfilled and this is not something you should ignore.
Immediately following the death of a partner nothing you do or feel will seem normal. Every step you take will be out of the ordinary and your sense of loss will be painful and alienating.
If you’re a widow or widower, the prospect of seeking a new relationship brings with it the possibility of upsetting the status quo. With this in mind you may need to tread carefully when you decide to tell your in-laws you’re thinking of dating again.
As a parent following the loss of a partner, you might one day find yourself in another relationship and facing the task of introducing someone new to your children. You may feel anxious about doing this and concerned that this news could make them feel insecure.
For some, getting back into a relationship after bereavement will take a great deal of forethought. The mere idea of actually going on a first date will be a huge step for you. Hopefully, a huge step taken with cautious enthusiasm!
If you’ve been happy with your partner, and their absence has left you in an empty, unremitting state of ‘love lost’, then perhaps you shouldn’t be reading this. However, if it’s been a while and you’re starting to miss having someone to share your life with, then maybe the time has come to think about meeting others who are also single.
Inspiring Stories is a regular series featuring interviews and discussions with well known authors, motivational speakers and entrepreneurs from within the widows and widowers community. In today’s edition we chat to consultant and keynote speaker Karen Millsap aka ‘The Grief Consultant’.