Dating again for the first time in decades can be a daunting prospect for a mature woman, especially if sex is something that has not been on your agenda for a long while. However, rest assured that once past those initial first meetings, a romantic relationship, as a senior dater, can be life changing in a really positive way. Getting used to holding hands again and experiencing an embrace after many years of being single, can be thrilling and up-lifting.
If you’re attracted to your date, relish the moment and let things take their course. Enjoying each other’s company and discovering unique and common interests will provide plenty of scope for conversation. Hopefully, both of you will be keen to make things work and want to enjoy all that a mature relationship can bring. If it leads nowhere, at least you have experienced the thrill of expectation and will look forward to your next encounter with someone new.
Let’s assume after dating a few times that things are becoming a little more serious and you’re presented with the possibility of taking things that much further. Ask yourself, as a mature dater, how you really feel about this new man in your life. It doesn’t have to be goose bumps, but it’s important that there is a degree of positive anticipation at the thought of your next meeting. You might not have reached this quite yet, but if you’re feeling good vibes, and the friendship seems to be blossoming, there must be something worthwhile going on here.
If you or your date lives alone, then there may have already been a suggestion that sex is the next step and it will be far easier for something physical to take place for the first time. However, should you need or want to arrange an overnight stay somewhere, in order for you to properly enjoy your first night together, I recommend a location where you will not feel too conspicuous. A large hotel rather than a country inn would perhaps be more hospitable. That way, you’re blending in with the crowd, rather than imagining that you’re the center of attention.
Once settled, take some time to get used to the idea that you will soon be cuddling up with your date. Indulging in a romantic dinner and having a drink or two can help you to relax. However, don’t feel obliged to drink if you don’t want to. And don’t have more to drink than you’re used to. You wouldn’t want to pass out before the big moment!
If either of you are uncomfortable about this leap into the unfamiliar, then it is important to talk about any issues and try to allay fears or inhibitions that might have arisen. Men, as much as women, are likely to be self-conscious about their body; also their potential performance. This being the case, it is far better to bring any concerns out into the open rather than to pretend they don’t exist. A conversation will help both of you to understand these feelings, and could help to solve the problem.
Familiarity with each other, and with each other’s body, will help to improve these concerns. Holding each other, gentle touching, kissing, and sensual massage are all ways to share moments of passionate affection and can lead on to having a satisfying sexual experience. Hopefully, this will leave both of you feeling glad that you have taken this next step.
Once back into your every day routine, make a point of connecting with your man as a way of reassurance that all is still good between you. Assuming you enjoyed the experience, share this with him and tell him you’re looking forward to the next time. Hopefully, your sex life will gradually become an important part of your relationship and something special and fulfilling that will enhance your friendship as it grows.
There is no age limit to enjoying sex. As mature lovers you will hopefully find yourselves calling upon your self-awareness and experience to help you on your way to what could be a life changing and exhilarating encounter.