Inspiring Stories is a regular series featuring interviews and discussions with well known authors, motivational speakers and entrepreneurs from within the widows and widowers community. In todays’ edition we chat to US based author and blogger Abel Keogh.
Tell us a little bit about yourself and what you do?
My name’s Abel Keogh and I’m the proud father of 7 kids and husband to Julie (aka Marathon Girl), the most amazing woman in the world. During the day I work in marketing for a financial institution. At night after the kids have gone to bed, I write books. When I’m not working or writing, the rest of my time is spent playing with my kids and coaching their basketball, soccer, or football teams and going on a weekly date with my wife. There’s not time for anything else.
What inspired you to start writing about dating for widowers?
When I was widowed, I started blogging anonymously about my day-to-day experiences of being a young widower. Many of these stories included the ups and downs of dating again. My stories must have resonated with people because they began emailing me and asking me questions about the widowers they were dating. I never intended to write books about dating a widower but the emails piled up along with requests to write a book about dating widowers. I finally wrote a series of books. I’m glad I did because countless women and widowers have told me how much these books have helped them with their relationships.
What topics/themes are of particular interest to you?
When it comes to relationships, I’m very interested in how men think and act. A lot of my dating guides spend time talking about this because in order to know if a widower is actually ready for a serious relationship one has to understand how men behave when they’re in love and when they’re just stringing women along. Most relationship guides don’t pay enough attention to this.
Tell us more about your memoir, ‘Room For Two’.
It’s the year of my life after my late wife’s suicide. How I put the pieces of my life back together and fell in love with Marathon Girl. It’s about how I found peace and that love and hope and endure despite the tragedies that shape our lives.
Your novel, ‘The Third’, has recently been published; any there any more novels in the pipeline?
Yes, I’m currently working on two other novels. One is a mystery novel and the other is a science fiction book. I hope to have them completed by the end of the year.
Can you share with us the ‘Five Things’ have helped you through bereavement?
– What one book?
I never found a book that helped me with the grief or bereavement. Those I tried to read were mostly full of empty platitudes. I think there’s a great opportunity for someone to write one that actually helps people.
– What one activity?
Running. I don’t know where I’d be if hadn’t run four or five miles every morning after I became widowed. It cleared my mind and prepped me for another day.
– What one quote?
‘There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind.’ C.S. Lewis
– What one piece of advice?
Having a friend tell me it was okay to ‘cowboy up’ and move-on. I did and never looked back.
– What one song/piece of music?
The only music I could listen to after my late wife’s suicide was the Counting Crows album August and Everything After. There was something real about the lyrics and imagery that resonated with me during that time and all these years later. It’s the only music that seems to fit life not matter what I’m experiencing.
To find out more about Abel Keogh, visit his website.
This article is part of the ‘Inspiring Stories’ series.